Emotional Gushers are experts at knowing their emotions and were born to share them. No one has to wonder where they’re at. Elated, bored, miserable, they tell you. What you see is what you get. They tend to be spontaneous, direct, authentic, and trusted confidants. The gusher unloads stress by verbalizing it.
Recognizing you’re a gusher enables you to become a better communicator by learning to balance self-sufficiency with emotional expression.
Tips For Gushers To Find Balance: Empower Yourself with Self-Sufficiency
Experiment with centering your feelings before soliciting support. Here’s how: First define the upset. Let’s say your boss has made mince meat out of your self-worth yet again. Second, ask yourself, “How does this make me feel? Seething? Demoralized? Plotting murder?” Now let yourself experience those emotions uncut, not acting them out, an essential stage before transformation can happen. Third, work with your feelings using these techniques:
Tip#1: Set your intention to clear the emotion.
Tip#2: Keep exhaling stress and relax your body
Tip #3: Use positive self-talk to love yourself back to center again. Inwardly say, “I did my best. I even deserve points for graciousness.” Affirm everything you did right; try to forgive where you might’ve fallen short, a loving inner dialogue that reinstates your power.
Tip #4: Tune into your intuition to find a solution. Spend a few quiet moments meditating to see what images, impressions, or ah-has! come to you about improving the situation.
As a gusher, if you skip these steps and go straight to the phone, you’ll cheat yourself out of the opportunity to build the emotional muscles necessary for more freedom and autonomy. Knowledge is power. The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself. If this is good, you’ll be capable of gratifying relationships with others.
via Are Your Emotions Contagious? | Psychology Today by Judith Orloff MD, author of the New York Times bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life.